The word elopement has changed a lot of the recent years. That's why there are multiple misconceptions about what exactly an elopement is and how an elopement should go. But that's the great thing about elopements, you get to throw out any misconceptions and make your own rules. I've made a list of all of the most common myths and misconceptions about eloping and why they're, simply put, completely wrong.
#1 - You’re Selfish for Eloping
No. Just no. This is a huge misconception about eloping that needs to change. I once mentioned to my mom not wanting to invite a ton of people and all of her cousins to my wedding. Her response was “well it’s not all about you,” but actually it is. Your wedding day is the one day that is truly 100% about what you and your partner want. Your wedding day is supposed to be a reflection of who you are as a couple. You deserve the day that you want. It’s not selfish, it’s making the day special for yourself. Don’t fall into the trap of believing your wedding day is for anyone else but you and the love of your life.
#2 - You Only Elope to Save Money
This is another big misconception about elopements. It’s true eloping can end up saving you money but that’s not the point of it. When you choose to elope your budget doesn’t have to shrink, it just goes farther towards creating the day that is the experience you want. Your elopement is more than just signing the marriage license it’s about the whole day. Use your money to make your day the experience you’ll never forget. There are tons of fun things to incorporate into your day to enhance your wedding day. Like booking a helicopter tour, getting a private chef to come and cook dinner for you, going horseback riding, going out in a hot air balloon. There are so many things you can do to make your day unforgettable, so make your day unforgettable.
#3 - Eloping Isn’t as Special as a Traditional Wedding
Absolutely do not let this misconception about elopements affect your attitude towards your wedding day. Eloping is just as special if not more special than any traditional wedding. By choosing to elope you’re choosing to make your day more personal to you and therefore even more special than a big cookie-cutter wedding. So many times when planning a big traditional wedding you’re so influenced by other people’s opinion and it ends up being more about what everyone else wants than what you want. When you elope you’re not spending your time trying to cater to other people’s needs on your day. You’re choosing to focus on what’s most important to you and that is the most special thing there is.
#4 - You Don’t Have Any Time to Plan!
In the past eloping may have meant a quickie wedding but today most couples actually start planning 8 - 6 months in advance if not longer. Just because you’re choosing to elope doesn’t mean you have to throw everything together in a week. You can still take your time to enjoy your engagement, enjoy the moments where you pick out your dress for the day, celebrate with your family and friends beforehand, have some fun planning your day! The misconception that your elopement is only an elopement if it’s thrown together at the last minute is an old and outdated one. Take the time to plan your day to make it what you want it to be.
#5 - An Elopement Has to Be Just the Two of You
The term elopement has evolved quite a bit over the recent years to the point where it basically no longer means what it started out as. An elopement can basically be anything you want. If you want to include a small number of people who matter to you in your elopement day then do it. Often times if you choose to include a few family members or some close friends it is referred to as an intimate wedding interchangeably or instead of an elopement. You can still have the intimate feel of an elopement day while including other people in it.